How To Increase Your Conscientiousness

Hi, this is me doing the dishes. I dread bringing myself to do this task, but when I'm in the act of doing the dishes, it isn't so bad. As the anticipation creates order out of chaos, it is a part of living in a conscientious manner. Conscientiousness is a personality trait that can be subdivided into orderliness and industriousness, and is a predictor of long-term success. In this video, I'll share some insights on how to increase it in order to be more productive, organized, and determined.

So, I recently made a video about becoming a bloomer, in which I touched upon the subject of conscientiousness. A person in the comment section named Shadow Man asked me to do a video about how to increase your conscientiousness, and I thought that would be a great idea. Before we go into the how, let's start finding out what conscientiousness is and create some context.

The trait conscientiousness can be subdivided into two aspects: industriousness and orderliness. These two aspects facilitate and support each other. In other words, you're likely to be more industrious when you're orderly, and you're likely to be orderly when you're industrious. Conscientious people are often planners; they like structure, they are disciplined, and if their lives are sorted out, they are basically the ones that a formerly disorganized person like myself perceives as superhuman machines.

Highly conscientious people love hierarchies. They'll probably prefer living in bondage in a well-organized Galactic Empire over living in freedom on the chaotic planet of Tatooine. Conscientious people aren't always the most fun people to be with; their orderliness comes with an increased disgust sensitivity, not just disgust for chaos, but also for people at the bottom of the hierarchy, and their miserable fate is a motivator for them to stay away from the bottom. This disgust sensitivity may be at the expense of compassion; they are most likely judgmental towards others.

They can't stand others being so lazy and not taking responsibility, and they have low tolerance for people violating norms and rules. However, they are also very judgmental towards themselves; not functioning properly fills them with shame and guilt. That's why they are more prone to the fear of failing. Non-conscientious people may have a higher tolerance for chaos; this is also why they don't succeed in life.

I've already told you that a personality test indicated that I'm high in openness and high in neuroticism. Being high in openness means being high in creativity, but also the risk of emotional instability. Long story short, to reduce neuroticism and turn its creativity into productivity, I had to increase my conscientiousness. Believe me, this is a very difficult thing to do for someone who has lived in chaos for so many years.

Increasing conscientiousness doesn't mean that we become conscientious people; we can still remain the creative, open, and compassionate people we are. It just means that we adopt certain behaviors that conscientious people have to get a better grip on our lives. Look, despite the fact there are extremely talented people among us, without some form of structure, chances are small that they will ever capitalize on those talents.

For example, someone who is high in extraversion and high in openness will most likely be a social butterfly. I love these people because there are a lot of fun to be around. The problem is, though, that they like socializing so much with so many different people and in so many different places that they will move through life without any direction. If people like these would just pick a direction and stick to that direction, they would be unstoppable, like a North Korean short-range ballistic missile.

Although that may be a bad example, they could structure their lives in a way that their goal, the star in the sky, stays visible at all times and illuminates the path to reach that goal, instead of changing goals and ambitions every two weeks. It also helps them to weed out the excesses of the lively social existence and form a small group of good friends that assist them in their journey.

For me, something simple like keeping my house clean is one of the best things I can do for myself. At the same time, it's also one of the toughest things to stay committed to. I would rather write and make YouTube videos all day. But when I neglect my living environment, anxiety slowly starts to slip in, and eventually I will lose my ability to steadily engage in my creative activities.

So let's get practical now. Again, conscientiousness can be subdivided into orderliness and industriousness. Let's start with orderliness. When I create order out of chaos, I look at life in three different areas: one, my outside world; two, my ego extensions; and three, my mind.

Now, as you may know, the Stoics make a clear distinction between the things that are in our control and things that are not in our control. The good news is that sorting ourselves out is in our control. The bad news is that the outside world is not in our control, so we have to make a compromise within permanence and know that despite directions, we don't control the outcome.

That said, creating order in our surroundings will make our lives at least a bit more predictable, and that's what we're aiming for. It doesn't mean that we should take control of everything outside us but create order among the aspects of our lives we correspond with. These are, for example, finances, relationships with people, a job, or an education. By sorting out these things, we create an overview of our relationship with our environment: what needs to be cultivated and what needs to be cut loose.

Just creating a financial overview, knowing my exact expenses every month, gives me a lot of peace of mind. The second one is the ego extensions. Carl Jung argued that we have aspects in our lives that we are tied to in a way that they've become extensions of ourselves. This could be a living environment like an apartment or dorm room, but it could also be a partner. Because ego extensions are part of ourselves, it's important that they are as structured as possible.

Cleaning our room basically means cleaning ourselves. When our room is dirty, we ourselves are dirty as well. Also, the act of cleaning has a calming effect on our minds, and I would say it's an underrated form of meditation. The last one is the mind. How do we keep order in our mind? Well, partly by sorting out our surroundings and ego extensions, and partly by going inwards. Training the mind has been a practice for thousands of years across many cultures and religions.

The key is to keep our minds in the present moment and let go of worry and rumination. Spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle wrote a book on how to do this, named "The Power of Now," and I've put a link in the description. When our minds are calm, we can focus more easily on tasks and get things done, which is the next aspect of conscientiousness: industriousness.

Industriousness and orderliness are tied to each other. It takes some work to be orderly, and order facilitates work. At the same time, my personal preference is creating order first and being industrious in regards to my creative pursuits later, simply because I'm more productive when my surroundings are cleaned up. So, after I've sorted out my finances and my apartment, and my mind is relatively calm, it's time to get creative and, above all, productive.

The number one success factor when it comes to productivity can be summarized in one word: discipline. Discipline is the act of doing the same things over and over again. Let's say that for example, your goal is writing a book. Writing a book doesn't happen overnight; we need to divide this task into smaller pieces, let's say writing 2,000 words in one short session.

If we repeat this session over and over again, after 50 sessions, we have written a hundred thousand words. When we focus on small tasks, no task is too big. Every night before I go to sleep, I write down my goals for the next day. This could be something like writing a video script, doing the laundry, working out a certain muscle group in the gym, anything I can do on that very day.

An important factor in regards to discipline is trust. We have to trust that by doing something repeatedly, the results will come. We can apply this to almost everything: bodybuilding, losing weight, building a YouTube audience, and also the practice of meditation. Breath meditation, for example, is the act of watching our breath and our thoughts, and when we lose ourselves in our thoughts, we bring our attention back to the breath. Doing this again and again slowly increases our overall awareness.

So, after setting a goal, we divide this goal into sub-goals and create subtasks from them and execute these subtasks with our full attention. When we don't respect a small goal, we don't deserve the big one. Like famous philosopher Lao Tzu once wrote, "A journey of a thousand miles begins with one step."

By increasing our conscientiousness, we tether our wild and reckless selves to a framework to gain overview and direction in our lives. This might feel like bondage at first, but after a while, we begin to enjoy the peace and tranquility that comes with it. By all means, it's not an easy task. I have fallen off the bandwagon many times, and I still do. Some days are extremely productive, other days are not. But as long as we keep pursuing order and keep doing the things we need to do in order to make our lives slightly better, we are making progress.

Thank you for watching.