15 Signs You’re Mentally Strong

Resilience is the primary difference between those who make it in life and those who don't. Life has its ups and downs; it's just how it goes. Those who are able to pursue their goals despite an overwhelming amount of pushback earn their future. Nobody hands it to them.

By the end of this video, you'll have a full checklist to see if you've got it or not. Here are 15 signs you're mentally strong. Welcome to alux.com, the place where future billionaires come to get inspired.

You understand that things don't happen for a reason; things just happen. You have to deal and make something of the puzzle pieces that you've been given. Life isn't fair, and most people don't realize that's a blessing. Imagine the horror of knowing that every bad thing that happened to you is because you deserved it.

Mentally strong people take responsibility for their own lives, for their own state of being. If you're feeling like... if you're miserable, if you're unhealthy, if you're unsuccessful, if you're dumb, it's your responsibility to put an end to it. Most people make the following mistake, and this will forever change the way you look at things: People think reality is flexible and their potential is fixed, when it's actually the other way around entirely.

Reality is fixed, and your role in it is flexible. Now that you understand the world will keep spinning even without you in it, maybe it's time to make the decision and be flexible with how you're going to make your life matter. You're able to self-motivate and take action even if you feel like you don't want to.

Motivation is an extraordinary thing. When it hits you, drain it fully; don't take it for granted and put it to good use. The higher your purpose, the more you realize that doing it only when you feel motivated is not going to get you very far. So you need to figure out a way to push even when you don't feel like pushing.

Amateurs do it in the sunshine; professionals do it in the rain. It's the off-season that makes the difference. We've known a secret that nobody else knew, and it guided how we work. You build wealth and make progress on Sundays. Work while everybody else is chilling, and it's not going to take long until you separate yourself from the crowd, which is why you're getting this video today.

You don't even have to be special to win. Through discipline, hard work, and discipline beats talent when talent isn't working hard enough. Mentally strong people aren't slaves to what the mind thinks is easy, sweet, or comfortable in the moment, and that's how one takes control over their own lives.

You're able to analyze your performance and, through brutal honesty, make adjustments. The only sign of intelligence is changed behavior that leads to better outcomes. A person is considered intelligent when they're able to understand their own behavior and make adjustments to increase the likelihood of their success. If you've been doing the same thing for 10 years and it's still not working, well, you might not be as smart as you think you are. Just, you know, being honest with you.

The only way to evolve as a person is to look at your past performance and see what you did well and where you sucked. This is why all professional athletes or fighters re-watch their games; they study themselves to see where they could have been better. Small, incremental improvements lead to extraordinary results over long periods of time, and you don't have to do it publicly. You can do it when you're alone.

Look at what you've managed to accomplish this year. Look at what you could have done better. Look at your relationships; look at your health; look at your bank account; look internally at how you feel. Be brutally honest with yourself; start making changes and see what happens. You don't envy others who. Envy others because you think you deserve what they have more than they do, but that's not true. Deep down, you know that's not true, and it's eating at you.

We envy others for what we miss in ourselves. Envy is the final toxic form of desire, which means at some point it was just a guiding light towards your destination, but you took it the wrong way and became a hater. Haters are just dreamers who gave up on their dream. Mentally strong people don't envy others; they're good with themselves. Whenever they see someone who has more or something that they want, they take it as motivation.

Envy is the result of a limited mindset of zero-sum games, where if someone else has something that you want, it means that you're not getting it. Mentally strong people know they can become and get anything that they set their efforts to—anything, but not everything. This is an incredible distinction you learn when you begin to level up.

Envy is found only in people who don't believe in themselves to get what they want. What to these people results in envy, in mentally strong people this turns into motivation. If they did it, then I can do it as well, but better suited to my situation.

You are not above asking for help, mentorship, and guidance. Mental strength comes from the ability to be self-aware of your reality; it means keeping your ego in check. Most people sacrifice a peaceful life because of pride and ego. Fathers and sons waste decades because of words. Relationships get broken. Some people take pride in misery and even wear it as a badge of honor when objectively they could have been better off if they'd only put their pride aside and asked for help.

Remember this: If you're too proud to ask, you can always return the favor when you're in a position to help. But from where you are right now, you can't help anyone, not even yourself. Mentally strong people value expertise above everything else because it saves them time and pain.

If others can minimize the pain you will endure, do it and use the difference wisely. Rich people do it all the time; they pay ridiculous amounts of money to experts just so they can get there quicker. Anyone who's had a great therapist can tell you just how powerful the experience can be.

Now take that model and get yourself a therapist for all parts of your life: someone to help you be healthy, someone to help you get rich, others to mend your relationships, one to help you find peace, and a handful of teachers to make you smarter. How amazing would that be? How much would this team of people cost, and what kind of impact would they have on your life?

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You say what you're going to do, and then do what you said you would do. Be careful because that first part is what separates the greats from everyone else. It's not really the achievement that's the extraordinary part because some people can just get lucky or the circumstances might lead them to a certain path. But the announcement of intent and then the execution shows the world you're able to bend your future based on what you desire.

There's a photo from 2014 on the alux founder's Instagram page with a one-dollar bill and six added zeros that mark the beginning of the journey to the first million dollars on a cheap Toshiba laptop. Crushed it just a few years later, and you know he still carries this bill in his wallet as a reminder.

I'll also notice how the post only got 15 likes, and one of them was his wife. Yeah, because at the stage when you announce things, nobody believes you're actually gonna do it. It takes incredible mental strength to trust a vision only you can see, say it publicly and then execute until you achieve it.

You are able to change your position based on new information. Mentally strong people maintain a level of curiosity in the pursuit of truth. Unlike what modern culture is telling you, there's no such thing as your truth and my truth; there's only one objective truth. Everything else is just perception.

Your personal lived experience. Most people confuse perception—what you think and what you see—with what really is. They often reference this image right here, but the number on the floor was put there by someone with a purpose. If you take a step back, you'll realize there might be a five or a six near it, which renders one perspective useless.

At that point, you've got a choice to make: A) Admit you were wrong and simply that you didn't have a full view of the facts and move on being wiser, or B) Stick to your initial position and scream louder, hoping it's going to make you feel better about yourself. Mediocre people think in terms of winning and losing, while mentally strong individuals focus on progress and growth.

You're able to keep yourself focused and not derailed by distractions. Mental strength is about controlling what happens inside your head. It means paying attention to this video without checking your phone or doing something on the side. You fail to make any real progress because you jump from one thing to another.

The plan isn't the problem; most plans actually work if you just stick to them long enough. This is why some of you watching this have six businesses and are still broke. Stop chasing shiny objects and just pick one, okay? Any one of them will get you there if you just commit to it for ten years. But you don't do that because you're trying to get there in six months, and then you fail.

So, you try another shortcut that also fails. What you lack is the mental fortitude to commit to it until it inevitably pays off. You don't complain about the situation; you get the job done. There are two kinds of people: victims and problem solvers.

Variables change all the time, so you have to have the brains to change accordingly if you want to thrive. If there's one skill that's above everything else in life, it's the skill of figuring out there's always a solution to the problem. You just need to be more creative in your approach.

We've been through hundreds of deals where the other party said it's impossible, and we still managed to make it work. Be careful of the people you have on your team; you want them to bring solutions, not problems. Be careful of the managers who say things like it can't be done, or it won't work, or there's no point in trying.

Instead, promote and reward those who are able to problem-solve on the spot, who see an alternative that benefits the organization, and they make it a reality. The best people don't ask, "How can I help?" They just help. You are stubborn with your goals but flexible about the methods.

Your goals don't change, but how you'll get there might be based on what you learn along the way. As you progress in life, you pick up different skills and different insights, like a river going downstream. You can take the path of least resistance; the journey is going to be long either way, so don't make it harder on yourself than it has to be.

Sometimes the lifestyle you're looking for might not be available in your location, so you'll have to move. Other times the job you're at might not be the right fit, so either you switch jobs or switch careers altogether. Most people lack the ability to reinvent themselves.

But once you've figured out your long-term goal, you need to be flexible and change into the person most likely to be deserving of that outcome. The truth is you don't have it because you're not worthy of that life yet. But it doesn't have to be that way.

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Some of you want a complete redo of your lives, while some of you just need to make a couple of small tweaks to go from burnout to enjoyment. We built this one for you, so make sure not to miss it when we launch. Other people don't control your emotions.

Pay attention to the people who make you feel things, be it joyful emotions or negative ones. Pay attention to the people who drain you of energy; these people have control over you. You give them the power to make you feel things you don't necessarily want to feel.

Mental strength means you're in such a good place mentally that nobody can rile you up. You've never seen someone successful start a fight; they're out there enjoying life and all their success. The more people have control over your emotions, the less you own yourself.

This is why so many people are miserable: their emotions are regulated by others, which brings us to self-value. You don't seek external validation; you know who you are. If your happiness depends on other people's validation, you will forever crave it, and when you don't receive it, it'll eat away at you.

It traps you in a cage where the only light you get is when you dance at their demand. It's the same with emotions; you no longer belong to yourself. Mentally strong people know who they are, and more importantly, they know who they're not.

You don't need to pretend; you don't need to put on a face. You can stop acting, and whoever is left around you are the real ones. Do you know how many people go out of their house and put on a mask, acting like somebody they're not the entire day? You probably know someone like that, where only once in a blue moon do you catch a glimpse of who they really are.

As humans, we're so scared of rejection that we keep up an act as long as we can, because if the act gets rejected, we feel okay because that's not really us. But if we were to reveal to the world who we really are and that gets rejected, well, it feels like game over. But it's not.

As Miles Davis put it, "It'll take you a long time to learn to play like yourself." You don't get anxious; you get focused. When life gets complicated—and it will—your body will tense up. For some people, this is an overwhelming experience; they freeze, they get anxious, they can't sleep at night, frightened by the potential outcome if things start to go down.

Most people will break down with it, but mentally strong people strap themselves in and get to work. The relationship to effort is inversely proportional to outcome; the worse it gets, the more you work, and you don't stop working until things are returned to a state of predictable balance.

As we've spent more and more time with self-made high-net-worth individuals, the more we realize just how common this is amongst them and how uncommon it is for regular folks. Most people are only driven and motivated when things are going well. Successful people reframe going well as the default, and they mostly hunker down when that default is threatened.

You are comfortable being alone. The more success you have, the more private you become. You end up vibing alone or surrounded by very few people. Your circle diminishes in size but massively improves in value. Being alone no longer scares you like it does everybody else.

You know what you bring to the table, so you're not really afraid to eat alone. You prefer growth in silence because being around so many people who are just trying to take is depleting you of energy. This is especially true in times of hardship, because look, a sinking ship can save no one.

So if you find yourself in this position, don't bring other people onto your ship unless they're really good at fixing ships. This is also true of age alone. And finally, you're able to zoom out and look at reality objectively. The older we get, the more we're able to appreciate time and a larger time horizon.

When we're starting out, everything had to happen fast. We would pedal as hard as we could, and it gets you started, but you don't really get that far, do you? You don't really understand leverage and compounding until you get enough base to afford leverage or to see compounding at work.

The secret to long-term success is to set your life up in a way where your efforts perpetually compound, and then make sure that compounding doesn't get interrupted unnecessarily. Once you understand how true leverage and compounding works, you never hurry. Your time horizons change; your focus shifts from shotgunning the target to strategic decision-making.

Because one smart decision will 100x the impact, and the game changes to figuring out what kind of leverage you should use next. Then it boils down to your ability to zoom out and look at the puzzle pieces honestly and objectively—not as you wish they were, but as they actually are.

You need to see the ingredients clearly and assess what could be made out of all of them or figure out what's missing. Zoom out. Look at reality. Make something with what you have and repeat that until you get what you want. Mental strength is the only way to go. Because when you zoom out, you might not like what you see, or you realize it's not enough, and that's where a decision is made: you either build something out of what you have, or you live the rest of your life complaining that you didn't do enough.

Now we're curious to know, aluxer, how many of these 15 did you check off? Let us know in the comments, and as a thank you for still watching this, we saved just something good at the end. Use your mind to solve problems, not create them.

Be honest here and self-diagnose, okay? How many of the problems in your life are the result of your actions, and how many are just by sheer chance? Your entire life can change when you understand how you're actually the one creating most of the anguish you experience. You might point the finger at people around you, but the more honest you are with yourself, the more you realize you are the architect of the chaos in your life.

So let's do this today: we want you to exclusively use your mind to solve one problem you have in your life. Put that brilliant mind of yours to work and come up with a single solution. Do it for real. Once you do it purposefully, you realize you can make a habit out of this and eventually solve one problem per day.

Your life might feel overwhelming right now, but you're like five to six problems away from crushing it and living life if you're willing to take today's challenge and solve one problem. Write the word "one" in the comments. We'll check back to see how many of you do this, and hopefully, you'll hit us up once that problem is solved once and for all.