You Can't Win Until You Overcome These Obstacles
It's just a matter of time until you have to overcome these, so you might as well get ready. Here are 15 obstacles you will be facing in life. Welcome to alux.com, the place where future billionaires come to get inspired.
Number one: your parents' limited understanding of the world. Most parents lack self-awareness. They don't understand the world they grew up and evolved in isn't the same world you're living in. They've been outpaced. Things have changed. What worked for them may no longer work for anybody. They had little to no access to quality education. So, in other words, they don't understand what is possible and what isn't.
Here's the golden nugget: most parents would rather default to safety than to accomplishment. Meaning, your parents don't necessarily want you to succeed because they're afraid you might fail. They couldn't do it, so it's unlikely that you, the fragile being that came from them, would ever be able to surpass them. Sound familiar?
Number two: teachers who label you less than your peers. Only 12 percent of teachers are actually satisfied with their job. Over half of them are frustrated with how life turned out for them. So what do they do? They struggle to find any form of significance and power, so they take it out on the kids, especially those who don't fit into the traditional mold. For them, there's only one correct answer, and it's written in the end of their teacher notebook.
It's the same with some parents, because they never got the life they wanted for themselves. They see it as arrogant when their kids dream of a different kind of future.
Number three: friends who want to stay the same while you're looking to grow. Unless your friends are as hungry for growth as you are, the gap between you and them will continue to grow. Your success will lead them to resent you. Here's what you need to know: a friend is someone who is happy that you are happy. Some people aren't meant to go alongside you for your entire life. It's okay to let some people go.
Number four: a selfish partner that doesn't want you to be more than you are. Very similar to friends, sometimes the one holding you back is in your household. Be careful of a partner who doesn't want you to become more—someone who wants to limit your growth because it's more comfortable for them for you to stay the way you are. In most cases, this comes from a deep insecurity that if you evolve, you'll see them as less, and you'll move on to something or someone else.
Number five: a lack of tools needed to take yourself out of the hole. You will be dealt a random hand in life. You have to do with the little that's available to you. This is where you need to become a learning and creative machine. There's not that much opportunity out there for you; you need to be the one to create it.
You're lucky in a sense that now you have all the information at your fingertips. You might not have a mentor to grab your hand and pull you out of the ditch life threw you in. But with resources like Alux, you're able to learn how to build your own ladder out. High-value practical education has become extremely affordable. If you go to alux.com/app right now and sign up, you can get a full year's worth of daily mentorship and coaching for only $99. People are earning more after using it, and they're blown away by how impactful it is.
Number six: a society that doesn't see past your surface. Society is going to judge a book by its cover. They'll treat you differently based on the way you look, your race, your skin tone, your accent, your clothes. They love splitting people into them and us, whatever "us" means to them. Not only is life hard by itself, but navigating around all this will feel tiring. The obstacle is moving forward despite the nonsense society is spitting out.
Number seven: moving forward despite other people doing you wrong. The past is the past, and it's best left where it belongs. The big obstacle is breaking those chains holding you back. You cannot move forward if all you do is look toward the past. Ironically, you're doing yourself even more harm by sacrificing your present and future at the altar of your past.
Number eight: the mindset block of prioritizing what is good long-term versus what you want in the short term. Look, eating cake feels better in the present than eating broccoli. Drinking feels better in the moment than staying sober. Watching Netflix on the couch feels better at the time than doing an hour of deep work.
We're all wired to think short-term because your ancestors lacked the abundance that you have at your disposal. Your ancestors would only find berries every now and then, so when they did, they would eat all of them because, hey, you never knew when you were going to have the opportunity to indulge yourself again. Now, thousands of years later, you can indulge in whatever you want by simply tapping on a piece of glass.
Even still, that instinct remains. A human being can only evolve once it understands it can delay gratification, and in exchange for the present, they will receive an even better future.
Number nine: overcoming laziness. Laziness and procrastination are different. Laziness ties more into a lack of motivation, purpose, or drive. You're simply wasting time with no intention of ever doing anything else. Procrastination implies you will do the bare minimum, but only once it becomes absolutely necessary.
Laziness is a lot more dangerous than procrastination. Most of life's struggles come from laziness. You know life could be better if you took certain actions, but you choose not to and lie in your misery.
Number ten: overcoming imposter syndrome. Know how you overcome imposter syndrome? You absolutely obliterate it with mountains of evidence that show proof of ability. Show me the work, show me the proof, the results of your ability. Don't just tell me about it and expect me to believe you. Show me then, show me again. Show the world over and over again what you are capable of. When you look back on everything you really did, there's no way to lose the belief in oneself.
The obstacle is that most people want the credibility, status, and benefits that come with it without doing any of the work. This is the kind of thing we break down how to achieve step by step in our app. It works, so we're not going to stop telling you about it until you wise up and download it. Go to alux.com/app right now.
Number eleven: heartbreak. At one point in your life, you will experience true heartbreak. You will feel as if your heart has been pulled out of your chest by a dull throb. The sky will go gray, nature will lose its colors, and you won't feel like eating or talking to anyone.
On the upside, though, you'll discover some really cool bands that will only make sense for this moment in time. The obstacle comes from your ability to go back out into the world despite what you're feeling deep down and risk going through this again in the hopes that at some point you won't, and it will all be worth it.
Number twelve: fear in all its forms. You know when you stand on the edge of a cliff ready to jump in the water? Your heart is pumping, your body is signaling you to take a step back towards safety. Your internal programming is stepping in, trying to keep you away from danger, yet you override all of those commands and you jump anyway.
Once you're in the water, it feels amazing and you're proud of yourself. The second time, though, it's always easier than the first. People fear failure, they fear public embarrassment, they fear ridicule of their peers, they fear bringing shame to their own family, so they settle. The obstacle lies in feeling the fear and doing it anyway.
"But Alex, I'm scared!" Look, we've said this before and we will say it again: do it scared.
Number thirteen: overcoming the unfairness you will experience in life. Other people will get a better start than you did. The corporate ladder isn't a competence hierarchy; instead, it's a social dynamic one. Those who are better at playing office politics usually end up promoted and on top. The hotter person will probably get the job over you despite you being more qualified. C'est la vie.
Number fourteen: outpacing the rhythm of societal development. Society and time move at a certain speed. Not for too long, and you might wake up and realize you were left behind. The cost of living is consistently going up. If your salary stays the same, you're actually losing at the game of money. Technology is quickly upgrading; if you're not understanding how AI will be able to make your job easier, you will lose against the person who does.
Language, jokes, memes, culture changes—it requires a certain level of effort not to be left behind. Do it; the alternative is far worse.
Number fifteen: figuring out what you want to be when you grow up. The final obstacle is a lot deeper than the surface might show because, look, deep down we still feel like children. We've amassed all of this success, yet we still feel like we're toying around with reality.
We've grown up, but the child is definitely still there. The obstacle is in figuring out who you really are and what purpose your life has. Ours is to help others get there faster than we did, especially those who have nobody to look after them. Once you find your purpose, you realize what you need to become.
Find yours, Alexa, and then answer this question: what's the biggest obstacle you've had to overcome in life? Leave your answer in the comments because that way the community can learn from your experience.
And as for those of you still watching, this is your well-deserved bonus.
Speed of decision-making is a super strength. A big obstacle most people will face in life is decision paralysis—the moment the opportunity will have passed them because of their inability to make a decision in a timely manner.
You learn to make decisions by making a lot of them. Don't ask your partner what they want to eat; don't narrow it down for them—decide! Watch other people and you'll realize how indecisive everyone is. In a world that's paralyzed by a lack of decision making, you have an unfair advantage if you understand what you want and you make the choice that has the highest likelihood of you getting there.
The more frequent you're right, the more you develop that gut feeling that people talk about. You made a decision to watch this video today, and we thank you for that. Before the end of the day, we want you to make 10 more purpose-driven decisions and see what it feels like. Stop waiting for others to pick for you; learn to pick for yourself. If you're in charge of your own life, write the word "me" in the comments as a commitment to making the 10 decisions before the end of the day.
We'll see you back here again tomorrow. Thanks for spending some time with us today, Alexa; we're so glad you did. If you found value in today's video, please give us a like, hit that bell icon to never miss an upload, and hey, don't forget to subscribe.