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how to master your emotions | emotional intelligence


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·Nov 4, 2024

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Emotion. It’s sometimes referred to as the spirit or the breath of life. It prescribes our actions and colors our world. The one who can master the emotions can master actions, and the one who masters actions is the master of all future realities.

Today we look at the stories of 2 different men, 2 different world views, 2 different goals, and, ultimately, 2 different paths. This is Alexander. He believes that there are two kinds of people in the world: the conquerors and the conquered. If you want to be great, you have to become a conqueror. It’s a dog-eat-dog world, and only the fit survive. You have to determine who will conquer with you and whom you must conquer.

Alexander read a lot as a kid. He fell in love with Greek heroes who displayed the highest virtues: courage and bravery. They were leaders — not followers. He didn’t have much as a kid and had to work hard for everything he had. This led him to believe that a person's life is the outcome of their actions and that they must take complete responsibility for what happens to them. Physically and intellectually, he held himself to incredibly high standards. There’s no one he wanted to conquer more than himself, each and every day.

One day, he encountered a homeless man. The man asked him for some change. Alexander knew what he was seeing: a conquered man. How could this man let himself be conquered so badly? How many mistakes must he have made to end up in this position? Why doesn’t he take steps to dig himself out of this hole? Instead, he’s taking the lazy way out. He’s trying to take from those who worked hard for what they have. Those who made good decisions should not be punished by those who made bad decisions.

Alexander knew that if the man wanted to eat, he needed to learn how to fish and not have fish given to him. He became enraged by the man’s weakness. “This man won’t get a penny from me,” he thought to himself, “that would only enable his destructive behaviors and poor attitude towards life. By suffering, he’ll learn or he’ll die; that’s the way the world works.”

This is Joseph. He believes that there are two kinds of people in the world: those who can help and those who need to be helped. His father taught him that the highest good is to serve those who have nothing and to lift them up. Life is difficult, and those who have should serve those who have not.

Joseph read a lot as a kid. He fell in love with various spiritual leaders who loved all and lived to serve. He grew up quite well-off and always felt indebted to those who didn’t. He felt lucky to have everything that he did. One day, he encountered a homeless man. The man asked him for some change. Joseph knew what he was seeing: a completely underserved man.

This man had been abandoned by society. Joseph felt like weeping. “Imagine how much we have failed as a society to let someone get to this point,” he thought to himself, “life is so difficult and full of suffering and based on luck, that any one of us could end up in his position.” He grabbed all the money he had in his pocket and handed it to the man.

And so, both stories end here. Both men had unique worldviews shaped by their past experiences. They both perceived the same man in a different light. Where one saw a weak man, the other saw a forsaken man. Their perceptions led them to feel different emotions. Their emotions were heavily affected by what they thought they were seeing.

In actuality, both men knew nothing about the homeless man, and they have no idea what led him to his position. This is often the case in real life. From a young age, both men were surrounded by an invisible structure referred to as culture or environment. The knowledge they grabbed from this structure allows them to navigate the world.

Alex grew up in a structure of personal responsibility, of strength & weakness. He can only see people in this way. It’s all he knows. Joseph grew up in a structure of collective responsibility, of the needy & the fortunate. He can only see people in this way. It’s all he knows. For both...

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