How To Improve Your Charisma

Do you ever wonder how some people seem to fit in everywhere and get along with literally everyone? Everybody wants to enjoy their company, talk to them, and wherever they go, there's no such thing as a closed door or somebody standing in their way. Are those people using hacks, or do they know something that you don't? Some call them social butterflies; some call them community leaders, while others simply call them charismatic. And make no mistake, okay? Charisma is one of those things that people don't talk enough about, and it's certainly something that you need more of in your life. Want us to prove it? Then make sure to watch this video until the end.

Here's how to improve your charisma. Welcome to alux.com, the place where future billionaires come to get inspired. Now, before we get into the tips and tricks of improving your charisma, let's understand what charisma is and why you need more of it in your life. Charisma isn't something that you're born with; it's a skill that can be developed and nurtured. It's a combination of several factors and personality traits that include confidence, charm, humor, social skills, and emotional intelligence. When you master the art of charisma, people are naturally drawn toward you, and you can easily connect with them on a personal level. This makes you more likable, influential, and memorable, which can lead to better opportunities in both your personal and professional life.

Alright, so with that explanation out of the way, here are some tips that you can follow in order to train your charisma.

Tip number one: Work on your body language. It should come as no surprise to learn that your body language plays a crucial role in how people perceive you. If you slouch, avoid eye contact, and have a closed posture like your arms are crossed, you'll come across as insecure and unapproachable. On the other hand, if you stand tall, shoulders back, make eye contact, and have an open posture, you'll appear confident and welcoming. So, the first step to improving your charisma is to become aware of your body language and work on improving it. Here are some great starting points to help you achieve that goal:

• Stand tall with your shoulders back and your chin up.
• Make eye contact with people when you talk to them.
• Keep an open posture by not crossing your arms or legs.
• Use hand gestures to emphasize your points, but don't overdo it as some people might find that strange.

Tip number two: Learn how to speak and articulate your points. Charismatic people are not only good listeners, but they're also good speakers. They can articulate their thoughts and ideas in a clear and concise manner, which makes them more persuasive and influential. Most people take their speaking skills for granted, overlooking the fact that it's a skill that's vital to their development. But here are the facts: The ability to speak and articulate one's thoughts is a crucial skill that people should work on because it's essential to their personal and cognitive development.

The capacity to communicate through language is a defining feature of the human species and is fundamental to our ability to interact and form relationships with others. In early childhood, the development of language is closely linked to the growth of cognitive skills, including memory, attention, and problem-solving. As children learn to express themselves verbally, they also learn to think in a more complex and abstract way. Language development is a key indicator of cognitive and emotional growth, and children who struggle to develop language skills are at risk of falling behind in other areas of development.

The ability to communicate effectively through language is also vital for personal and social development. Language allows us to express our thoughts, feelings, and needs to others, which is essential for building relationships and forming bonds of trust. It enables us to negotiate and resolve conflicts, persuade and influence others, and to empathize. And besides that, the ability to speak and articulate one's thoughts is essential for success in academic and professional settings.

Effective communication is a critical skill in virtually every field and profession, and individuals who can articulate their ideas clearly and persuasively are more likely to be successful in their careers. That is why effective communication is a very strong focus on the Alux app. We infuse our daily sessions and learning packs with insightful knowledge from psychologists, therapists, counselors, and life coaches to help you create the life you dream of. If you haven't already, go to alux.com/app to get started now. We go deeper on the app, but here are a few starting points to upgrade your communication skills:

• Speak in a clear and confident voice.
• Avoid using filler words like "um" and "ah" as much as you can because it bores people.
• Use pauses strategically to emphasize your points and give people time to process what you're saying.
• Use storytelling to engage people and make your points more memorable. That should do it to start!

Okay, tip number three: Before you speak, learn how to make people feel heard. Because look, charismatic people are not just good speakers; they're also good listeners. They pay attention to what people are saying, show empathy, and ask thoughtful questions. This makes people feel heard and valued, which is essential for building strong relationships. Here are some tips to show people you care:

• Pay attention to the person you're talking to, instead of thinking about what you're going to say next.
• Show empathy by acknowledging the person's feelings and perspectives.
• Ask open-ended questions to encourage the person to share more.
• Summarize what the person has said to show that you're listening and to clarify any misunderstandings.

Remember, people love to talk about themselves and their achievements. Leverage that in every social interaction, and don't forget to add value to each conversation with every opportunity.

Tip number four: Show confidence in your actions. Charismatic people exude confidence in everything they do, whether it's giving a presentation, meeting new people, or making a decision. They believe in themselves and their abilities and are happy to assume responsibility, and this confidence radiates everywhere around them. Now, here are some great tips to become more confident:

• Remember, some manage to fake it until they make it, so don't get discouraged.
• First, believe in yourself and your abilities.
• Take calculated risks and be open to new experiences. Many people play it safe, and believe us when we say that deep down, they'll look up to you for acting brave and pursuing your dreams.
• Don't be afraid to speak up and share your opinions, and learn to say no when you need to. Stand up for yourself when necessary.

And if confidence is something you really struggle with, on the Alux app we have a learning pack dedicated to this: 21 lessons on building self-confidence from the ground up. Go to alux.com/app to get started.

Tip number five: Be authentic and genuine. Nobody likes fake and manipulative people; that's not charisma—that's sociopathy. And psychopaths can't stay in one place for too long because people will eventually smell their BS. Charismatic people don't care about impressing anyone; they're authentic and genuine, and this comes across in their interactions with others. They don't try to be someone they're not, and they don't pretend to know everything. They're honest, humble, and vulnerable, which makes them more relatable and trustworthy.

So, if you want to improve your charisma, you need to absolutely be authentic and genuine. And here's how to do that:

• Be true to yourself and your values. To do that, you need to identify your values.
• Admit your mistakes and weaknesses and be willing to learn from them.
• Don't try to impress people by pretending to be someone you're not.
• Show vulnerability by sharing your struggles and asking for help when needed.

But be wary; okay? Some people will only help you out to satisfy their own ego, so find people that you can trust.

Tip number six: Have a positive attitude and enjoy the process. No matter what troubles and tribulations befall you, remember to stay stoic. Believe in yourself and welcome those challenges as an opportunity to learn and grow. Charismatic people choose to see the good in people and in situations, and they radiate that positivity to others.

They understand that negativity is a source of growth, and adversity is there to test their will and ability to adapt. They are courageous but calculated in everything they do. This makes them more enjoyable to be around, and it inspires other people to be positive as well. This is the mark of true leadership. Here are some mental crutches that you can practice in this regard:

• Focus on the good in people and situations instead of the bad.
• Use positive language and avoid negative self-talk.
• Smile and laugh often, and make others feel good about themselves.
• Practice gratitude by appreciating the good things in your life.

And the last tip on this list: Practice empathy and kindness. Kindness and empathy are something that we need to see more of in our society. Life is not about hoarding massive amounts of wealth; it's about finding your path and sharing your happiness and achievements with others. There is meaning in wishing to make the world a better place.

Charismatic people perfectly understand that, and they show compassion and understanding toward others. They go out of their way to help those in need. This makes them more likable and respected, and also helps them to build strong relationships. So, here are a few ways to practice empathy and be more kind:

• Put yourself in other people's shoes and try to understand their perspective on things.
• Show compassion and understanding toward others, even and especially when you disagree with them.
• Go out of your way to help people in need, and show generosity whenever you can.
• And probably the most underrated practice: Random acts of kindness.

Do all of these and you'll find true happiness and fulfillment. Now remember, charisma is a skill that can be developed, so don't be afraid to practice and make some mistakes. It's not about being someone you're not, but rather it's about enhancing the best parts of yourself and presenting them to the world in the best way possible.

So, be true to yourself and your values, show confidence in your actions, be authentic and genuine, have a positive attitude, and practice empathy and kindness. Improving your charisma is not a one-time effort; it's a lifelong journey that requires constant attention and practice. But the rewards are so worth it—better relationships, more opportunities, and a greater sense of fulfillment and happiness.

With enough practice, time, and effort, you can become the charismatic person you've always wanted to be. And now it's time for you, the Aluxer, to add more to this conversation by answering the following question: What, in your opinion, is the most important personality trait that someone can have? Drop your answer in the comments below; we're so curious to hear your insights. If you found this video valuable, don't forget to return the favor by tipping us with a like. As always, thanks for watching; we'll see you back here tomorrow.