This rabbi's take on how a lustless marriage is akin to a prison | Rabbi Shmuley Boteach

less than 1m read

·Nov 3, 2024

And I maintain passionately that the passion need not be lost. That this idea that there's a transition in marriage from lust to love, that when you're single, you can't keep your hands off of each other, but it slowly migrates into this partnership, it's a defective approach to marriage.

It's one that I cannot embrace, and it's one that I have to argue against. Any marriage that doesn't have intense, strong desire, any marriage that doesn't have lust, is becoming something of a prison. It's where you're kind of there for reasons other than wanting each other.

It may be because it's comfortable; it may be because you appreciate and cherish each other; it may be because of the kids; it may be because you have nowhere else to go; and maybe because you even feel that you belong there. That's okay, but it's still a form of external incarceration. You're not there out of a deep desire to be there.

Lust is where you want that person, and that's why you're there. That has to be the primary reason that we go into marriage and that we stay in marriage.

What Does God Look Like to You? | Brain Games

2015 AP Calculus AB 5d | AP Calculus AB solved exams | AP Calculus AB | Khan Academy

View All

He Grew Up on the Streets, Now He's Making Them a Better Place | Short Film Showcase

You know you can’t change the world; you have to start with yourself. I was going down a one-way street, going backwards, and I left the house. I had my gun on my hip. I kept a blunt halfway lit, had my tennis shoes tied tight. These guys, I had to jump o…

Minimum efficient scale and market concentration | APⓇ Microeconomics | Khan Academy

In this video, we’re going to think about the concept of minimum efficient scale and then how that impacts market concentration. We’re going to make sure we understand what both of these ideas are. So first of all, minimum efficient scale, you can view i…

Graph labels and scales | Modeling | Algebra II | Khan Academy

We’re told that Chloe takes a slice of pizza out of the freezer and leaves it on the counter to defrost. She models the relationship between the temperature ( p ) of the pizza, this seems like it’s going to be interesting. The temperature ( p ) of the piz…

Great White Shark Hunting Patterns | When Sharks Attack

NARRATOR: South Africa’s Western Cape is notoriously dangerous. Almost one in four of all fatal great white attacks happen here. In other parts of the world, the most dangerous time to enter the water is at dawn or dusk, the times when white sharks typica…

Crowd-funding: Tips

So, as some of you might know already, uh, I’ve been running a crowdfunding campaign to fund the production of the follow-up to my George or to help animation that I made last year. It’s in the final days of the campaign, so if you didn’t check it out alr…

Should You Go To University?

I would just say that if you are self-aware enough to realize that you’re sort of middle of the road and you’re not that good, then sure, go to university, get your stamp, try not to be brainwashed, and use it to at least get your first job. But if you’r…

This rabbi's take on how a lustless marriage is akin to a prison | Rabbi Shmuley Boteach

More Articles