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Why Happiness Is Like Water (animated)


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·Nov 4, 2024

Let's talk a little bit about that crazy thing called happiness. It's the state of mind that everyone is after. Furthermore, there's a complete industry that revolves around attaining it. But happiness is not static. It's not that you do X and Y, which leads to Z, and you'll be happy for the rest of your life. Happiness is not something that can be bought or saved like money in a bank account. Also, it has very little to do with how much money you have, or what car you drive, or what house you live in.

So how does happiness work? I've been a happiness chaser for many years. I tried it all. The first thing I found that made me very happy was alcohol, but later I found out that this fluid does not contain the happiness I was looking for. Well, it does for a few hours, but the days after can be an absolute horror.

So what else did I try? Romantic love. Being in love is one of the greatest highs that a human being can experience. Sometimes it's so intense that the world starts to look pink. Later, however, the relationship ended, and romantic love turned into romantic hate. The highest of highs became the lowest of lows. So this wasn't it either. The same goes for eating food, buying the latest gaming console, or going on a vacation. All these things are temporary moments of joy and pleasure that do not last.

In 1978, there was a study by Brickman, Coates, and Jen of Bullman who wanted to find out if happiness is relative. They studied three groups: lottery winners, paralyzed accident victims, and a control group. Now you would expect that a lottery winner would be a lot happier than someone who, for example, has lost a leg. Also, you would expect that a lottery winner would be way happier than a non-lottery winner, in other words, the control group. A year after the occurrences, it turned out that the controls and the lottery winners were equally happy.

However, the lottery winners were slightly happier than the paralyzed accident victims. What does this say? It says that happiness is indeed relative. A lottery winner may be ecstatic when they hear about the sum of money they will get, and an accident victim may be devastated when he hears that he is paralyzed for the rest of his life. But when time passes, the levels of happiness grow towards each other and are almost the same. Nevertheless, I think that almost everyone will choose winning the lottery over losing a limb. Could that be because of the pleasure that can be bought with it? Most likely, but pleasure is not happiness.

So what is it? The prince Sidara Gotama, also known as Buddha, was a happiness seeker. Despite his unbelievable wealth, he was plagued by ongoing dissatisfaction. So he decided to leave his overprotected life in the palace and was confronted with the sufferings of the world. Being immersed in pleasure his whole life, which made him miserable, he decided to go the opposite direction.

He starved himself, only eating one grain of rice a day, and inflicted all kinds of pain unto himself. After years of ascetic practices, he concluded that this did not work. So he found a middle way through meditation, which enlightened him under the Bodhi tree. Immersing himself in pleasure didn't make him happy; immersing himself in pain didn't make him happy. But when he gave up, enlightenment sneaked up to him, and his suffering transformed into a state of bliss.

Happiness is like water. No matter how much you shake it with pleasure or stir it with pain, it will always try to return to a state of calmness, and in that calmness, you will find bliss. Does that mean that we have to meditate under a tree to be happy? Not at all. It means that we should stop trying and start doing.

Meditation is an act—the act of being in the moment, floating along with the unfolding universe. But so is working on a project, writing the script for this video, solving a puzzle, or going for a run. Being in the zone, as some people call it, is a way to tether yourself to the now. Past and present do not matter anymore. The same goes for being poor, being paralyzed, or being a millionaire. Happiness is a byproduct of action.

Don't try to be happy; do what you enjoy. Don't think about it, don't dream about it, do it, and before you know it, happiness begins flowing in like a river stream. Thank you for watching.

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