"Listener's Judo" as a skill goes beyond active listening. #shorts

Type of listening I practice as I teach is really kind of beyond active listening all by itself. We even sort of refer to it sometimes as listeners' judo because we're listening very carefully for certain things.

We're listening for different aspects of what people care about and what they're against. At the same time, people will reveal the negatives very much, either between the lines, a little bit of the adjectives, and then also in every positive, there's a flip side negative.

Every negative, there's a flip side positive. If I make it a point of talking about how I'm for integrity, then if you're making it a point to state that, then you've been betrayed in the past. That's been a problem for you in the past.

There's a yin and yang to everything. As soon as you realize that there's a negative to every positive and a positive to every negative, and you're listening for it, you can kind of pick out how you want to guide a discussion, knowing that those are the things that you're looking for.