15 Things That Instantly Lower Status
You know, some of the things that you do are the adult version of giving somebody else the ick. Fortunately for you though, we're here to help make sure that doesn't happen. Some of these are strategic while others are just about being a basic human being. Here are 15 Things That Instantly Lower Status.
First up, bad hygiene. Don't stink. Don't stand too close to people unless they specifically asked for it. Nobody wants to feel your breath anyway. Shower, brush your teeth, clean your hair. Don't touch other people. Don't throw garbage on the floor or on the street. Wear clean clothes and no. Okay. The same T-shirt you wore yesterday no longer counts as clean. Fix your teeth, fix your cavities as well as that root canal. This is rooted back in the gilded ages, where people who had bad hygiene usually were festering with disease. So as humans, we learn to stay away from them. Poor hygiene tells people you don't take yourself seriously. You don't take the situation seriously. And you couldn't take the time to do the bare minimum of washing yourself.
People realizing you're talking nonsense. The moment someone realizes you're full of shit, nothing you ever say will be trusted. Society will give you the benefit of the doubt in the first place. But once they realize you've been capping, you're done in their eyes. Not only do you have the audacity to waste their time by talking about something you know nothing about, but you're actively trying to deceive them by positioning yourself as something you're not. We learn to do better after the Emperor's Clothes story came out.
Digging with personal questions. Some things aren't meant to be shared with the public, and to most people, you count as the public. If you're not close enough that someone would volunteer that information, you best not ask them unless you do it for personal gain. Which is why most people will be reluctant. You've met people who just want to stick their noses in as deep as they can into your business, and it always leaves you wondering what the hell is wrong with them. If you cross the line, you're done. They will look down on you.
You look physically tired or ill. Now, this is a counterintuitive idea because you would think tired people are hard working. But that's not how it works. The more tired you are, the more you had to work. Meaning you don't yet own your freedom in high society. Telling someone they look tired is actually an insult. As for the ill part, it's the stay away from sick people example. All over again.
Being bad with money. Being bad with money is a car crash in the making. It's just a matter of time. Bad with money signals poor self-control and poor understanding of one's priorities in relation to time. If you're being bad with money, it also puts the circle's resources at risk because we tend to associate ourselves with those who can contribute to the circle's well-being. And the great thing about getting good with money is that it's just a matter of exposure. There's an app out there that helps average people to get extremely good with money by explaining to them how money and the world works in 10-minute sessions per day. It's our favorite app in the whole world because we built it. Go to alux.com/app and download it today. It's not going to take you more than two or three days before you realize just how valuable it is and how quickly you can see it impact your life.
Allowing others to speak down on you and not standing up for yourself. Aluxer, the world treats you how you treat yourself. If you let others walk all over you, you might draw sympathy, but not respect. And how much other people respect you is a key piece of where you place in the social hierarchy. More respect equals higher status. We actually made an entire video similar to this one that breaks down in detail the small things that immediately increase status. You can check it out in the top right corner or in the description.
Not being able to read a room, saying the wrong thing at the wrong time, trying to be funny when you shouldn't, and failing. Not being able to tell how other people feel. All of this builds this avatar of what kind of person you are in the minds of other people. If you want to be invited into the room again, learn to read the room you're in. Believe it or not, your status is what grants you access to certain rooms. If you feel like other people are gatekeeping you from your dream life, well, you might be the real reason they don't let you in.
A lack of emotional control. Somebody who cries all the time. Somebody who can't pull themselves together when you need them to. Somebody who loses themselves to anger. Someone who's unpredictably violent. If they don't contribute to the room or they've got the ability to change the vibe of the room for the worst because of their inability to control themselves. It's an immediate red flag that nobody wants to associate with. Life is already complicated, okay? We don't need to be wary of those we allow inside the castle walls.
Excessive behaviors, excessive drinking, shoving too much food in your mouth. Severely overly religious or severely anti-religious, too woke, too conservative. Anything in the extremes is bad. The problem with excess is it indicates who you are. Even if the early signs are positive, the first piece of chocolate tastes great. The second one as well. But if you keep going, it'll make you sick and even kill you. Once again, it boils down to your ability to self-control and take the value in everything you touch.
People who are lost and lack purpose in life. Have you met people who just aren't going anywhere? People who don't know what to do with their lives? People who have no purpose. They just are. There's nothing about them that's interesting. You know how they say everyone is a hero in their own stories? Well, these people are the closest thing to end pieces. The reason why we look down on people without drive or goals is because we want to know others are incentivized to perform. They'll give it their best because it would get them closer to whatever it is they desire. Lacking purpose is like an unlit candle. It's there. Sure. But it's not helping anyone.
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Cruelty. Look, any kind of cruelty is low status behavior, cruelty toward animals, cruelty toward people you deem below you, to those less lucky than you are. Cruelty is an unnecessary cause of suffering, and only low status individuals can get themselves to make someone or something else suffer with no reason.
A disregard for the rules of the House. The House sets the rules. If you walk into the house, you make a choice to follow the rules of the house. You are a guest. Behave like it. The host should be accommodating to the guests they've invited in, but never should the guests run the show. Always remember what position you occupy in the room. Any break of this unspoken rule will immediately get you labeled as low class. This right here is why modern society looks down on many immigrants who fail to assimilate.
Making one thing your entire personality. Being a one trick pony means that once the trick is done, people have no reason to keep you around. Making one thing your entire personality is just another form of extremism. There's nothing left to discover about that person. You know where they'll stand on any issue. Plus, they become incredibly annoying about it. And, you know exactly what we're talking about. If you've met any newly minted vegans.
Lacking basic skills, even if you were born with a silver spoon in your mouth. Not being able to take care of yourself and your basic environment shows that you failed at becoming a complete adult. Cooking, changing a light bulb, washing and ironing your own clothes, shopping for yourself. These are just essentials.
How are you? 28 and don't know how to pay your taxes? How are you? 33 and you need your mommy or your wife to get you a doctor's appointment? How are you? 41 and you don't own an electric screwdriver or a grill? Low status, that's how.
And going against the consensus and being wrong. It's one thing to go against the crowd and be right. Society will label you as a visionary, as someone able to see things that nobody else could. If, on the other hand, you go against the crowd and the crowd is right, then you're just going to be labeled as stupid. That's the cost. High status comes from being right. The more right you are, the more people are going to be willing to follow your lead because of your excellent track record of decision-making. Low status comes from being mostly wrong, especially in situations where it matters.
You've met people you internally labeled as low status. What triggered that label for you? Let us know in the comments. And as thank you for watching until the end, we've got a bonus even though it ain't a sun video. One last little indicator that you might be low status: how comfortable you are with unnecessary discomfort. The biggest sign of a low IQ is being comfortable with annoying background noises. Things like smoke alarms, beeping water jumping from a tap, a loud speaker, phone calls, screaming children, doors opening and closing in the wind, dogs barking, Bluetooth speakers outside, loud conversations.
You know, Schopenhauer, he really knew it well with people screaming from one side of the house to the other with blatant disregard for other people. The running theory is that these people are okay with it because there's no inner monologue happening inside their head, so there's nothing to disturb in the first place. What an academic way to call somebody dumb. If you had fun with this one, Alexa, make sure to answer the question we asked earlier, and we'll see you back here on Sunday. Take care.