15 Lessons You Learn Too Late In Life

You know, life teaches you a lot of valuable lessons, right? But most of the time, it is after the moment when you needed them. These are 15 lessons you learn too late in life.

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Starting off at number one: everything is temporary. Now, we like to think we have plenty of years ahead of us, right? Depending on your age, you might not even think that far ahead. But even you are temporary. Coping with the idea that everything you do and every person you meet is temporary can be a reality-shattering experience. The family dog is temporary. Your relationships are temporary. The items you buy are temporary. Nothing lasts forever.

It's one of those things you can only fully grasp when you've already seen it happen in your past. We all want to live forever, to be eternal, but everything we do at some point will be gone, and people will have forgotten it. So, you might as well go for it, right? Be grateful for the things you have and inspired to go after the things that will add to your happiness. You only get one shot at this.

Number two: life isn't fair. That promotion you want will probably go to someone who's been smooth-talking the boss, despite the fact that you're more qualified and you work harder. That girl you like might go after the douchebag more, despite you thinking that you would be a better fit—whatever that might mean.

You're experiencing life through your own eyes; you're going to be biased. The other 8 billion people in the world are experiencing the same thing. It can't all be perfect for everyone all at once. The world doesn't owe you anything. Just because you think you deserve something doesn't mean you're going to get it.

Number three: family matters more than friends. You can't choose your family, but nobody is willing to go further for you than they are. Friends are amazing; have as many real friends as you can get. But family is something special. While friends will be alongside you in the trenches, none of them would really risk themselves for you. Family members are the ones who'd really be willing to put you above them.

Don't take that for granted. Talk to your parents while you still have them. Talk to your siblings and don't let that relationship cool down. And of course, spend time with your kids because they need you more than they need anyone or anything else.

Number four: others treat you the way you treat yourself, not the way you treat them. It's weird when you realize that someone else's attitude toward you depends on yourself and not the other person. The way you present yourself, what you think of yourself, who you are as an individual—these are all in your control.

You can choose to grow, to learn, to improve. You are the sum of your experiences and beliefs. Once you fully accept a different set, the entire perception of the world around you will change. Just think of this small experiment for a moment: if you were to move to a new city where nobody knows you, you wear different clothes, listen to different music, you start to speak differently and change your interests.

Well, the new people you meet in that new city will treat you differently than the ones back home. So have more respect for yourself, stand up for what you believe in, and don't let others walk all over you. Because these small things will haunt you when you're old.

Number five: the sacrifices you make today will pay dividends in the future. The main regret of people in the second half of their life is not taking enough action. This is something we call the invisible sacrifice. This happens when you choose not to go for the life you want and end up with the only life that's left.

And this sacrifice affects everything—from career to relationships, health, and who you are as a person. The problem is, it's only clear where you could have done better when you look back at the past. That rearview mirror is always crystal clear, and by the time you realize this, it becomes really hard to turn things around.

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Number six: sacrificing your health for success isn't worth it. We've got a tendency to always want more, and very few people know when to stop. Money is the most important thing until you get it; then it doesn't really matter that much, and all you're left with is your physical and mental health to deal with.

Younger people believe that hustle and struggle are necessary ingredients for having a successful life, and you know, to a certain extent, that's kind of true. But as you get older, you learn valuable lessons here because it doesn't matter how fast you're pushing if you can't keep it up for the long run.

Number seven: the fear of embarrassment or criticism shouldn't stop you from being who you are. People judge you in order to feel better about themselves. It's never really about you; they need to. Even the perception—the more you outgrow others, the more they feel a need to throw shade towards your general direction to make up for the big disparity.

Criticism is a sign you're breaking away from the pack, and feedback is what points you in the right direction. Know the difference between the two, and you will never worry about what others think of you.

Number eight: things don't really matter that much. When you're young, you want things because you see other people having things, and you think your life would be better if you had them as well. But things are just things, okay? They don't make you who you are.

Possessions are raw materials moved from one place to another. Do you think 10 years from now that you'll care that right now, at the moment, you've got the latest iPhone? Look, okay, we want things because we are being sold on wanting them. Look around you right now; how many things do you have that you don't really need? You need tools, okay, not things, and nobody needs more than a couple of essential tools to get the job done.

Number nine: even the longest night is followed by a morning. Some things will take longer than 12 hours to pass—maybe a couple of months or even years. But one thing is for certain, okay? No matter how hard it is right now, how dark everything seems, there will come a day when you'll feel better.

Bad times, as well as good times for that matter, are temporary. This particular mindset will help you to push through some of the most difficult bits that life will ever throw your way.

Number ten: happiness is a choice. Happiness isn't something that depends on other people or getting their approval; it's something you experience yourself because your reality is in tune with your expectations. The good news is you can choose to be happy. The bad news is you need to put some real effort into it.

Happiness is not a constant; it's more of a mood, a vibe, if you will. And this mood comes from how you position yourself in regards to your situation. For example, if you think you still have a long way to go, things are getting harder, and stuff isn't exactly going your way, then this mood is hard to come by.

But on the other hand, if you think you're on the right path, you've got the tools you need, and you trust yourself and your ability to commit, well, suddenly your outlook seems brighter. And this is just one example; it's all about how you position yourself.

Number eleven: this moment right now, this is your moment. When we think of life, we usually look at the entire thing, but rarely realize that it's moments like this one right now, where you're watching this video, that make up all of the pieces. Most people learn of the importance of the moment too late in life and miss a great deal of opportunities.

You look into the past to learn, you look into the future to get inspired, but what you do today is really the only thing that matters.

Number twelve: everyone is out for themselves. Everyone is the hero in their own movie, and everyone wants to ride into the sunset with their own soundtrack in the background. We all experience life in first-person point of view, and since you were born, you were the most important thing you've ever experienced.

The same way you think of yourself as special, someone else thinks the same thing about themselves. We can't all be the lead in the same movie, so people will try to get that sunset for themselves. This will help you to see other people for what they really are—human, just like you.

Number thirteen: beneath anger is always fear. You know, as the wise Yoda said, "Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering." Whenever we suffer, especially for long periods of time, we believe it's because of something outside of us—something we hate.

But beneath all of that is always fear: fear of loss, fear of vulnerability, a fear of letting go. Fear is your body's reaction to what it considers a dangerous situation. It's an impulse, okay? Not a detailed analysis. You can't make it go away, all right? You have to just accept it, let it go past you, acknowledge it, feel it, and move on.

Number fourteen: the world is bigger than you'll ever get to experience. Now here's something fun to think about, okay? You'll never see everything the world has to offer. You'll never be in a situation where there are no more things to do, and the worst thing you can do is to accept boredom because you believe you've seen it all.

Come on, okay? If the whole world was a book, it would really be a shame to only read a couple of its pages, right?

Number fifteen: a lifetime isn't very long. Life is abundant because we compare the amount of life we've lived to the amount of life we think we have left. Let's do a little thought experiment together. So when you're in your 20s, you expect to have at least three times as much life as you've already had.

But there's a trap. Let's say the average person dies at 80 years old. Right off the bat, most people sleep seven or eight hours a night. Cutting down a third of that, you're left with 53 years. That's not bad, is it? But if the average person works 40 hours a week from 25 to 65, that's another 10 years gone. But you're still left with 43, which is still not too bad.

But wait, okay, there's more! On average, people spend 44% of their waking hours looking at screens. When you add up everyday chores that are consuming your time, you'll be shocked to find the average 20-year-old has less than 30 free years.

Now, if this doesn't put your life into perspective, we don't know what will. And of course, as a thank you for sticking with us until the very end, we've saved a bonus for you.

Number sixteen: comfortable doesn't mean a lack of worries. You want a stress-free life, right? We all do. But this is what most people get wrong: a stress-free life isn't a life without problems; it is a life full of solutions.

People tend to avoid doing things in order to protect themselves from having to worry about it, and this leads to a pretty lackluster life all around. Having a stress-free life means you're really good at solving problems—not at avoiding them.

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