Choose The Right Victim
One choose the right victim; everything depends on the target of your seduction. Study your prey thoroughly and choose only those who will prove susceptible to your charms. The right victims are those for whom you can evoke something exotic. They are often isolated or at least somewhat unhappy, perhaps because of recent adverse circumstances. The perfect victim has some natural qualities that attract strong emotions; this quality inspires will help make your approach more natural and dynamic.
The perfect victim allows for the perfect seduction. Some will readily open to our influence, while others seem to resist. Perhaps we find this a mystery beyond our understanding, but that is one of the challenges of dealing with life's complexities. Sexual predators often prefer to pick the odds in their favor as often as possible. They go toward people who seem easy to charm.
On the other hand, you must actively hunt out the prey that responds the right way. This will make your seduction that much more pleasurable and satisfying. How do you know your victims? By the way they respond to you. You should not pay so much attention to their conscious responses. A person who is obviously trying to hide their attraction often presents telltale signs, such as a blush or an involuntary mirroring of some gesture of yours.
Unusual behaviors, even perhaps a flash of anger, reveal that you are having an impact. All of these show that you are making an ideal impression. Some kind of personal taboo excites them or suggests to them who they might be if they were with you. All of this translates into a dynamic where you, in turn, will be more creative and more motivated to overcome their resistance. Seduction will move forward like a well-played play.
Your strong desire will infect the target and give them the dangerous sensation that they have a power over you. Of course, you are the one ultimately in control, since you are making your victim feel at the right moments. Lead them back and forth to help them know how intriguing they are in themselves. Never rush into the waiting arms of the first person who seems to like you; that is not seduction but insecurity. The need that draws you will make for a low level of attachment and interest on both sides.
Look at the types you have not considered before; that is where you will find challenge and adventure. Experienced hunters do not limit their prey to the usual suspects, although the victim who is perfect for you depends on your unique characteristics. Certain types lend themselves to a more satisfying seduction. Casanova liked young women who were unhappy or had suffered a recent misfortune. Such women appealed to his desire for emotional connection, but that need was also a necessity for him.
Happy people are much harder to seduce; their contentment makes them inaccessible. It is always easier to fish in troubled waters. Also, an air of sadness is itself quite seductive. Genji, the hero of the Japanese novel "The Tale of Genji," could not resist a woman with a melancholic air. In Kirk's book, the narrator Johannes has one main requirement in his victims: they must have imagination. That is why he chooses a woman who lives in a fantasy world—a woman who will elevate his gestures into poetry, imagining far more than what is actually there.
Just as it is hard to seduce a person who is happy, it is hard to seduce someone who has no imagination. For the manly man, the perfect victim was often someone who loved pleasure, was quite emotional, and when it came to women, found it hard to think straight. It was easy for Cleopatra to manipulate him once she gained a hold on his emotions; she kept him permanently on a string.
A woman should never be put off by a man who seems overly aggressive; he is often the perfect victim. It is easy, with a few crafty tricks, to turn that aggression around and make him your slave. Those who seem volcanic and passionate often hide insecurity, and this was what failed men in the 19th century. People who are distant and shy are often more rewarding than extroverts; they are less likely to be drawn out, and still waters run deep.
The infamous 16th-century Italian prefers certain victims. Besides the physical reason for such a preference, they were more likely to be idle than working men. On the other hand, you should generally avoid people who are preoccupied with business or work. Seduction demands attention, and busy people have too little time for the intricacies of relationships.
Our parents seduce us physically, both with contact and by satisfying desires such as hunger. In turn, we try to seduce them into paying attention to us. We are creatures by nature, vulnerable to seduction throughout our lives. We all want to be seduced. We yearn to be drawn out of our routines and into the drama of passion that draws us in.
Anything intriguing someone has will resonate with you; your perfect victims are often people who think you have something they don’t and who will be enchanted to have it provided for them. Such victims may have a temperament quite the opposite of yours, and this difference creates an exciting tension.