What does it mean to be a Dad in a modern age?

There's the growth in what you might call the dad deficit or fatherlessness because of a real shift in the shape of families. A danger, frankly, that we're just benching dads if they don't fit the traditional model of what it used to mean to be a father.

To be a breadwinner and a provider, then the danger is that they feel benched as a result and that they get benched by societies, benched by families. When four in ten children are born outside marriage and most children to less educated parents are born outside marriage, then we have to reinvent what it means to be a father.

Because right now, men are still being held to an old standard of what it meant to be a successful father in a world where that is neither possible for many of them or even desirable. Because what we've seen is, as women have grown in economic power and economic independence, then of course they're going to choose to be with a man rather than being forced to, as in the old days.

This is probably the greatest liberation in human history, honestly, that women can now choose whether to be with a man or not, but it does pose some really sharp questions about what fathers are for.