15 Things That Make Rich People Dislike You
In your life, there are going to be a handful of times when you're around rich people. This is your opportunity to make powerful connections with people who are affluent and influential. Their insights, network input, or sometimes even financial backing will cut how long it takes for you to find financial freedom in half. So don't screw this up. All 15 of these are important, and you might find yourself guilty of more than one of them, so watch until the very end. Here are 15 things that rub rich people the wrong way.
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Being late or answering late. Rich people value their own time more than anything. Their time is kind of more valuable than your time, so don't waste it. The way you get in the good graces of the rich is by saving them time. Almost all businesses catering to the rich are time-saving businesses, from concierge to private jets. If you work against that in any way, rich people will start disliking you.
As for texts, rich people are used to making decisions fast based on available information and gut feelings, so they value fast input on the regular. When you take too long to respond, you're acting outside of their flow, acting like you're doing them a favor when it's actually for personal gain. They'll sniff you out immediately because they've seen people like you before. You're not fooling anyone disguising your interests as an unrequested favor. Once it becomes apparent what you're doing, you're going to be cut out indefinitely.
Relationships work through laws of balance. You have to give something of high value that they need multiple times before you ask for something of the same value in return. This is how relationships are built over years. If you're just trading, you're not actually building relationships; you're just transacting, and that's different.
Lying about anything: once you are seen as a liar, nothing you say will hold 100% truth. Rich people don't have the time to verify every piece of information you share, so in the early stages, they automatically default to the truth. Once that trust is broken, though, the default switches to a lie, and it's only an uphill battle from there. You can get away with a lie once, but that means sacrificing the future for the present.
When you take more than you give: the thing about rich people is that most of them are beyond generous. They like to give; they find pleasure in giving and helping others succeed. But don't be the one asking for it; they hate nothing more than people who believe they're entitled to their money, time, or energy. Relationships thrive on a mutual exchange of support, kindness, and empathy, so we all look for balance in this regard. What you're taking is not hurting the rich, but once it's done, you'll see them completely withdraw and remove themselves from your circle. When you look back at it, know that you took more than you gave.
When you're not coachable: remember when we said they hate wasting time? Well, nothing hurts more than wasting time that you are passionate about investing into someone only to see them disregard your efforts. Being coachable means actively listening, processing, and following through on the advice and action plan that you are given. It is one of the fundamental rules of a mentor-mentee relationship. Being coachable is a sign of intelligence. Intelligence is measured through changed behavior. If you receive quality guidance and you don't follow through, it signals that you might not be as intelligent as you make yourself out to be.
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When it's obvious that you're talking beyond your level of expertise: if you're unable to explain it to a child, well, you don't understand it well enough, my friend. Some people talk too much, and some people just like to hear themselves talk. Rich people value expertise, so they'll make it a priority to listen to people who know what they're talking about. Because of their interests, they've already got a fundamental understanding of the topic being discussed, so it's a lot harder to bluff your way through than you think. Plus, they love verifying information and calling you out when you make things up. Once caught, well, you're trapped in number three on this list.
When you ask for second chances without fixing what got you in trouble in the first place: we all love giving second chances, but you've got to be worthy of them, okay? The first chance you get is based on your potential; the second chance you get is only if you're worthy of it. Being worthy doesn't mean just fixing the little things but showing a clear pattern of behavior for enough of a period of time. Just know that with a second chance, the trust never goes as high as it does with the first chance.
When you have a victim's mentality: if everything happens to you, if the entire world is against you, if you can't seem to catch a break, if it always is someone else's fault, that's not gonna fly with the rich, okay? Rich people like those who are able to manifest reality—those who are go-getters, those who take responsibility for the outcome, not the effort deployed. Success isn't a participation trophy kind of game; you either get it done or you don't. A victim's mentality only keeps you from making real progress. Switch it to 100% ownership over everything happening in your life and just watch the world readjust.
When you negate effort and assume it was all just luck or easy to do: never disregard how much effort, work, or sacrifice went into building something worthwhile. You don't know their story; you don't know what they've been through or what they had to leave behind to get to where they are now. Life isn't easy; it's actually the hardest game you'll ever play. People like to say they could have gotten the same results as other people if they only had the same ingredients, but hard work, commitment, and getting those ingredients in the first place—that is what sets the successful apart from the rest.
When you expect them to put in the work for you: they'll point you in the right direction, but they're not going to do the work for you. This is just another form of laziness. Once they tell you what to do, hey, it's all up to you, my friend. You gotta pick up the phone, lace up your shoes, show up, and put in the work.
And you know, look, we don't know what's wrong with some people, but at least once a month, someone reaches out asking for a large sum of money. Maybe they see the work that we did in Uganda and think we're just throwing money around. A month ago, someone asked for twenty thousand dollars for a dream wedding. Two months ago, someone asked us for one hundred thousand dollars to invest in crypto. A while back, 50k to start a trucking business, and the list goes on. These people are complete strangers reaching out on social media or via email.
Look, you are not entitled to the outcome of someone else's hard work. We built the only product in the world that shows you the way to get out of poverty and build long-term wealth. It's called the Alux app, and you can download it at alux.com/app. It costs only 99 dollars a year, and in a year's time, it will pay for itself 1,000 fold. But people, they don't want a roadmap; they don't want someone to show them the way. They expect you to put in the work for them as well, and that right there is why they fall prey to scammers.
When you say you were going to do something, but when they meet you again, you haven't done it: rich people will remember what you're working on. We like to keep tabs on the progress others are making, either for strategic connections or for straight-up investments. If you mention that you're starting a business doing mobile car washing, and the next time you meet, you're still stuck figuring out the domain name, well, you're probably not going to make it long term. Action trumps everything.
When every time you meet, there's a new opportunity for them to invest in: rich people have got enough opportunities lined up for them to invest in between themselves and their friends. They're constantly doing deals, and very rarely do they look toward new shiny opportunities. Why? Because the more you know, the less diversified you are. Basically, they stick to what they do best or have control over. If this week you're pitching a restaurant and next week an AI startup, you're too all over the place to be taken seriously.
Rich people accept opportunities from people who've invested the majority of their lives into a field and have a vested interest in the outcome of the investment. This means they'll jump in when you've got more to lose than they do.
When you are immature and financially irresponsible: rich people don't need to parent you around. They do not need to impress others with money or blow through their fortune. That's how they got rich; that's how they're going to stay rich. You can tell a lot about a person by the way they spend money. Watching you blow through it makes them feel like you're spending unearned money, and respect goes out the window.
More often than not, those spending large sums of money are the ones struggling financially because they're making a real effort not to seem like they're struggling. In the process, they only dig their hole deeper.
When you're clout chasing: if you care more about the photo than the connection, if you care more about the likes than the conversation, if you care more about the status than what could be built, well then, you're just a small fish swimming near the surface. Rich people, they like depth. They want to swim deep with a few people they allow in their personal space.
If you signal that you're just a tourist in their lives, you will only get the pleasantries that come along with said position. When you backstab others: what you do unto others is just time away from being done unto you. If they gossip about other people to you, they'll gossip about you to other people. With people like these, it's just a matter of time until they show their true colors. These people will sacrifice anyone they can if it means that they get to put another step on the ladder to what they see as personal success.
Be careful of how those around you move in regards to other people in your life. So far, you've been around rich people before, so this is the perfect opportunity to share what you've learned with the people watching this video. What have you learned about rich people? Let us know in the comments.
And as a bonus: you don't impress rich people with money. One of the earliest mistakes that we made in our teens when talking to the wealthy is trying to pretend like we're doing great financially when in reality we weren't. We wrongly assume that people with money want to spend time and coach other people with money, and that's just not true.
When struggling entrepreneurs come to us and position themselves as already doing great, it's an immediate red flag. If you're doing so great, then you don't need my help—that's what everyone's thinking. As time went by, we realized that what rich people really respect the most is effort, especially when starting way at the bottom.
Rich people are way more impressed by your progress of getting from negative 10 to zero than they are by you getting from 10 to 30. You don't control how the cards were stacked against you, but you do control your effort. And you want to rally behind those who, despite their humble beginnings, are on a journey to make something of themselves. Stop pretending you're rich; show how much you want it through your work because everything else will align for you once you do.
If you think that things are about to align for you in the near future, write the word "align" in the comments. Let's see who's opening themselves up for a change for the better. We'll see you in the app. True Alux.