yego.me
💡 Stop wasting time. Read Youtube instead of watch. Download Chrome Extension

How to be more disciplined (animated short story)


4m read
·Nov 4, 2024

Oh, meet Lucas. He's a young man about to enter college. He's had a difficult life growing up with his only parent, his mother, and his younger sister. Due to his difficulties in facing his adversities, he's lived a fairly unhealthy life and constantly indulges in partying, drinking, and smoking. One day, his mother got quite sick and was rushed to the emergency. The most important person in his life, who had rocked him through all the difficult times, was on the verge of death. She put up a good fight, but unfortunately passed, and Lucas became the man of the house.

Not only did he have to take care of himself, but a sister as well. It was summer break, and so Lucas immediately took on a full-time job as a janitor. He had to provide for himself and his younger sister. His only goal was to go to work each day and clean. Day in and day out, he went. He took on every opportunity at extra shifts. His discipline and work ethic were unwavering. He used the money to buy himself and his sister some food for dinner every night.

He didn't want to tell his friends that he was working as a janitor. So when they asked if he wanted to go out in the evenings and party, he decided that he would tell them that he had to tutor his little sister and cook her dinner. Lucas fell into the flow of going to work every day and eventually got used to it. It wasn't a chore for him anymore. He decided to stop buying junk food for himself and his sister and decided he would cook them a healthy dinner after work each day and then prepare breakfast for the next day.

He kept this routine up: working and then cooking, working and then cooking. Finally, school time rolled around, and Lucas had to attend classes. He was juggling a lot at once, so now he rolled his hours back to part-time and had to make sure he attended class every single day, so he didn't fall behind. Regardless of how he felt, he always went. He went to class, came home, worked, and then cooked dinner and breakfast. Lucas kept this up for the whole time in college.

He was able to put himself through college and graduate with honors. He landed a good-paying job upon graduation and maintained his good habits. Eventually, he was able to put his younger sister in college as well. He got married, and eventually, so did his sister. They remained best friends throughout life, and they reminisced on how happy their mother would have been of Lucas. How he turned his life around and went from lazy and out of control to in control of his destiny and the true king of his fate. He became disciplined, but how did he do it?

The first big thing for Lucas was a strong reason why. When his mother passed, he had a north star to become the man of the house and take care of his younger sister. It was literally do or die. Studies showed that a strong motivating reason why allows people to tap into willpower reserves that they might otherwise not have been able to. This reminds me of those movies where you see the boxer down to his last bits of energy in the final round, but then he has a flashback, a powerful memory of why he's doing this. Perhaps winning against all odds in memory of someone close to him who passed away.

Studies also show that a strong motivating reason why may only act as a buffer or a temporary solution to increase willpower and that willpower still has a finite limit. In our example, Lucas had a strong motivating reason for why he was trying to become more responsible, but that doesn't mean that reason could motivate him to do an infinite amount of things for an infinite amount of time. So, he tried to work at a part-time job, take care of his sister, try to get a perfect 4.0 GPA, and learn to play the guitar all at once. It would be difficult, if not impossible, regardless of how strong his motivating reason why was.

But in our case, Lucas started by focusing on one task only, which was work. He wanted to work every day. Once that became a habit, he directed his willpower and self-discipline onto another singular activity, which was cooking, followed by school. That's the key: to be wise with how we spend our self-discipline and to use it on singular activities, turning them into habits before moving on to another activity. The first habit could have been as simple as drinking water every day or making his bed every morning. When an activity becomes a habit, it drains a lot less willpower.

Lucas also faced a dilemma that many people trying to be disciplined encounter: peer pressure. His friends represented a temptation into his old life, an easier life requiring a lot less responsibility. There were two reasons Lucas was able to overcome this dilemma. He had a strong reason why and he planned for temptation. In fact, he used a very specific technique known as the if-then technique. He had planned that if his friends asked him to go out and party, then he would tell them that he had to tutor his sister and cook dinner.

This is a pre-planned decision of self-control that avoided him having to exercise willpower to resist the temptation. This is a great strategy to use when we anticipate that there will be times when temptations will arise and our willpower might be low. It's an automatic and pre-planned response to temptation. Studies show that practicing self-discipline increases self-discipline in subsequent acts. It's like a muscle. By finding his strong reason why, developing his discipline through singular activities, and pre-planning for temptations, Lucas was able to become more disciplined and overcome his adversities.

More Articles

View All
Farming for the Planet | Podcast | Overheard at National Geographic
[Music] I’m going to tell you about this place that 10 years ago didn’t even exist. And what created this wasn’t brilliance; it was freedom to allow nature to show us a better way. That’s exactly how my wife Molly and I rebuilt this whole farm over the la…
Transformations, part 2 | Multivariable calculus | Khan Academy
So in the last video, I introduced Transformations and how you can think about functions as moving points in one space to points in another. Here, I want to show an example of what that looks like when the input space is two-dimensional. This over here i…
Principles for Success: “Your Two Biggest Barriers” | Episode 6
Principles for Success: An Ultra Mini-Series Adventure in 30 Minutes and in Eight Episodes Episode Six: Your Two Biggest Barriers I can’t tell you which path in life is best for you because I don’t know how important it is for you to achieve big goals r…
Howard Marks: 78 Years of Investing Wisdom in 60 Minutes (MUST WATCH)
How do you make money as an investor? The people who don’t know think the way you do it is by buying good assets, a good building, stock in a good company, or something like that. That is not the secret for success. The secret for success in investing is …
Angles in circles word problem | Math | 4th grade | Khan Academy
If Ariana turns the stove dial 135 degrees to the right, what setting will the dial be on? So, two very important things up here: first, she’s turning the dial 135 degrees, and which way is she turning the dial? She’s turning the dial to the right. So he…
A Baffling Balloon Behavior - Smarter Every Day 113
Hey, it’s me, Destin. Welcome back to Smarter Every Day. So today we’re in the rocket van, and I’ve got two little science helpers here, right? Kids: Yes, right. Are you wearing your seatbelts? Kids: Yes. OK, we’re gonna do something pretty interesti…